What Would You Do?

[smokiechimp]

I don't like to disrupt the upbeat nature of CS! from recent days but I NEED to share this with you.

If you had a two son's, one 20 and the other 22 who did not get on with each other but shared a room and both had no means to leave home at that time.

Now these brothers where having a little spat one day when all of a suddern the older brother lunged at the younger one and begins to strangle him, making the younger brother loose breathlessness and aquire huge hand print bruises on his neck.

The younger brother decided to take matters into his own hands after previous experiences and reported this assualt to the police, for peace of mind more than anything. This was done to the distast of the parents who didn't want a fuss caused.

All what happened caused the 20 year old to have serious doubts about his home life and whether his parents truely knew the hurt that was being caused to him leaving him in pure agony.

If you where a parent what would you do?

[southern]

i'd boot the 22 year olds ass out to the curb

and beg the 20 year old for forgiveness for being a total b****

[Rebecca]

IMO the 22 yr old shouldn't even be living at home,i would've kicked his ass out the house....then i would try and mend things with the 20 yr old...make things better.

[LadyFireFly]

Were the parents aware that any of this was going on (prior incidents and all) until the police were called?

[LadyFireFly]

Originally posted by Rebecca
IMO the 22 yr old shouldn't even be living at home,i would've kicked his ass out the house

Because he is 22 or for his behavior?

[smokiechimp]

Originally posted by LadyFireFly
Were the parents aware that any of this was going on (prior incidents and all) until the police were called?

Yes they had prior warning to what he was going to do.

They didn't think it would solve anything.

[Mr.Matinee]

I say kick out the 22 year old and pay more attention to the 20 year old,or have the 22 year old stay and get extensive therapy,and pay more attention to the 20 year old.

[smokiechimp]

Ok, a pattern is forming.

[Snake Spirit]

Assault is still assualt whether it's in a family or otherwise. And if the 20 year old had previous experiences, he should have told the parents what was going on, (for some reason I feel he did but like most parents they pawn it off as 'boys will be boys.") Big mistake.

The 20 yr. old had every right to call the police, because he has the right to live assault free regardless of whether it disrupts the house or not. Dime on a dollar the parents would have called the police if THEy were attacked, so why should the 20 year old's safety and sanctity take back seat because it's 'their' house?

Anyway, I'd have laid the law down. The older one dosen't like it, don't let the door hit his ass on the way out. He can't go around assaulting whoever whenever...a family us built on love and trust, not fists feet and threats..

[Iben]

get some proffessional help for the older brother and support the younger one's decision.

[JimmyDean]

Yep, I'd say 22-year old has gotta go. Parents can put up with alot, but nearly strangling your younger brother to deatj is uncalled for and he should be gone.

If they were younger, in their teens, it could be handled differently, big punishment, therapy and such, but he's 22, a grown man, who should be getting ready or leading a responsible life... no need AT ALL to psyhically harm your family member, no matter what they do.

[evilsquishy]

If I were the parent, I certainly wouldn't like what was going on. I don't think any parent would. But I'd certainly look at both points of view and probably side w/ the 20 year old, especially if there were previous incidents.

[Snake Spirit]

Good thinking Iben :cool: And I would make it condition that the older one would HAVE to get ongoing profesional help as a stipulation to staying in the house. And he would have to apologize to his brother, and if he didn't agree to the rules, out he went. He's in his parents' house, he lives by their rules.

[Hitman]

I'd try to book a spot on Dr. Phil.

[Inval1d]

:lol:

[Alien]

Being me I'd punnish the 22 year old some how for it to be necesery for the 20 year old to need to phone the cops. But then in past experiences I tend to find that people don't do what they say they would like to in things like this.

By the way I take it we are talking about you and a brother?

[smokiechimp]

We'll keep it as a theoretical situation. It's better that way.

[Alien]

I'd take that as a yes then.

[smokiechimp]

Thanks for your opinions guys so far. And I see the master of debate is here. :D

Hey Snake Spirit.

[Kyle Katarn]

I'd *****-slap the 22 year old, then strangle him with a stick and ask him how HE liked it! :twisted:

....which is why I never plan on having kids! :eek:

I think the 20 yo did right by calling the cops. If the parents don't like it, then perhaps he should suggest they GROW A PAIR and reign in the 22 yo! Trust me....taking revenge physically on a family member is NEVER a good idea.... :(

[smokiechimp]

I know, he'd never do that to the 22 year old if he had the option.

The Police have played they're part and it's now up to him to go and sign the submission form tomorrow now the Police have a statement.

If he doesn't he will go to court and be prossicuted for GBH. It's not what is intended but this sort of thing should NEVER happen t anyone, especially your own family member so he deserves all he gets.

My Sympathy Is Left At The Door.

[LadyFireFly]

Originally posted by smokiechimp
Yes they had prior warning to what he was going to do.

They didn't think it would solve anything.

In that case, I think the parents are even worse than the 22 year old. They are not protecting their other child and letting horrible things go on in their household.

That being said, I'd sit down and talk with both of them and try and figure out a solution. If none can be reached, the 22 year old should find another place to live.

[PsychoMike]

I'd kick the 22yr. old out, actuallly I'd probobly make sure he went to jail for assult.

btw, when did this happen smokie?